It's been an emotionally draining week.
Excited and Disappointed:
My company's United Way campaign was pretty competitive this year. The challenge of being the department that raises the most amount of money with the Change Jar was compounded by the "Amazing Race" challenge that was open to any team of four people. The campaign officially ended last Wednesday, but we had to wait until Friday to find out who won both competitions. (Fast forward - my team ended up winning the Amazing Race, but my department lost the Change Jar challenge)
Shocked and Infuriated:
On Hallowe'en, my director, who's also a good friend, got the call that her father had had a heart attack. She raced out of the office, and I had never seen her this emotional. The next day, we found out that not only had her father passed away, but the father of the director of Technical Services also passed away the same day. Due to his customs, the funeral was held within 24 hours. However, upper management decided to restrict the number of people who could attend, which made some people rather upset. How could one person, just by virtue of being in the same department, represent other people who have known the director for years and who eat lunch with him every day? In the case of my director, the visitation was held at two different times on Friday, the first of which was from 2pm to 4pm, and the second from 6pm to 8pm. Again, management made it a point to say that it wasn't ideal for the whole department to go at the same time. Who's to say that you can't go and support a close friend and colleague in their time of grief? In the grand scheme of things, life is a little more important than work. And it wasn't as though they were taking advantage of the company. Some of the people decided to go to the earlier visitation and then came back and stayed late to make up the time. There was even some direct confrontation about this subject. I wasn't as involved in this as some of my coworkers, but it was sad to see where certain people set their priorities.
Delighted and Overwhelmed:
One of my biggest guilts this week was that I wouldn't be able to go to the funeral on Saturday. That was because I would be in Michigan on a shopping trip. My friend knew a group of ladies who were going to Auburn Hills, MI for a girls-only shopping extravaganza. Of course I was in, and in an uncharacteristic moment of spontaneity, we convinced another friend to grab a change of clothes and a toothbrush and come along for the ride. We were headed to Great Lakes Crossing, which is a gigantic outlet mall. The US Customs Officer asked us where we were shopping, and when we told him he commented, "That's hard core." The others were only planning on staying one night and going home after a long day of shopping on Saturday. But my friend and I decided to find another hotel room and stay until Sunday to ensure that we'd make the most of our quota. In a strange and wonderful twist of fate, we were able to score a discounted rate at a nearby hotel by taking a defective room. The defects were that the heating system was a little wonky, the window was jammed open in an attempt to rectify the problem, and there was no desk chair or mini-fridge. But to me, it was a perfectly decent room, and I didn't find it hot or cold at all.
In the morning we headed up to the Prime Outlet in Birch Run, which is just north of Flint. While Great Lakes Crossing was an indoor mall, Prime is not. We had a LOT of ground to cover, and a deadline, since we wanted to hit one more mall before closing time at 6pm. We did our homework the night before and marked all the stores we wanted to go to on the map. Unfortunately, we were a little slow at the start, so we were in a mad rush near 4pm. On our way back towards Flint, I realized that I didn't write down the directions to the last mall. I was going purely on memory and instinct. And a few well-placed road signs. We found the mall and dashed into a couple of stores. Our time ran out and we didn't get everything we wanted, but we were able to go into overtime at the bookstore, which didn't close until 9pm.
Crossing the border at Sarnia was not the nightmare I had envisioned. We were only waiting for about 40 minutes, and the officer asked us exactly three questions ("Where are you from?", "How long were you in the US?", "Approximately how much did you purchase?") and ending with, "Have a nice night."
After a couple of detours for food and gas, and stopping at our Spontaneous Friend's house to talk briefly and to pick up my friend's car, I didn't reach home until about 12:30am. I spent just under the $400 limit. I am immensely satisfied, and yet still have a little craving for more...
"Hold on to what you've been given lately, hold on cos the world will turn if you're ready or not"
